So I have a friend who is a girl and whenever I'm with her it seems like she is hinting at being more than friends. But she never talks to me unless I bump into her randomly. And

then I try to be all like "let's hang out" or something, but it never pans out. What's going on here? Is she playing me, or just waiting for me to do something? What should I do?

Signed, Confused

Dear Confused, I hate to break it to you, but you may be reading the wrong signals. Maybe she just has a flirty personality. Or maybe she really is interested.

Take notice in how she acts around other guys. If she seems like she is more flirtatious around you, maybe you are right. She' s probably too nervous to make the first move, so you should make it for her.

Ask her on a date or to hang out one-on-one. Get her number if possible.

That way if one time doesn't work out, you can re-schedule. The worst thing that could happen is she would say no to a date and then at least you would know how she feels. Don' t let that discourage you, we have all been turned down at one time or another. Good luck, Confused.

 

Dear Abbey,

So there's this guy that keeps bothering me. I was nice to him, like, once, but now he won't leave me alone. He's actually not a bad person, but it's getting kind of creepy. Is there a way I can get him to go away politely?

Signed, Creeped Out

Dear Creeped Out, first of all, I want to say I am so glad you were nice to this guy! Oftentimes guys like this don' t have many people being nice to them, so when one person is nice to them they become attached and read too much into it.

As long as he is not overly obsessive (aka calling/texting/ randomly showing up in your room) there is probably nothing to worry about. Still, if you are uncomfortable with the attention, talk to him directly.

Emphasize that you are just friends, and if all else fails, lie and say you have a boyfriend. That always works. It may be hard to continue to be nice to this guy because you don' t want to give him the wrong impression, but keep in mind he probably doesn't have many close friends.

You said it yourself, he is not a bad guy, so just continue to be nice and emphasize friendship. And a word of advice: it helps if your "boyfriend" is 6 foot 6 inches, 250 pounds, and captain of the football team.